Most of us carry the same coping strategies, the same definitions of “enough,” from one phase of life into the next — even after the life that shaped them has changed completely. Here’s how the phases of womanhood show up in the room, and why good therapy adjusts with you.

If you've looked through my website and wondered why you don't see the words anxiety, depression, or trauma anywhere, here's the honest answer: they're not separate from the patterns I already talk about — they're usually what's underneath them.